Have you ever noticed that when you start seeking external validation you become dependent on it? And how should you approach situations where you’re on the receiving end of not-so-nice behavior or thoughts? In this episode of Inner Archeology,...
Have you ever noticed that when you start seeking external validation you become dependent on it? And how should you approach situations where you’re on the receiving end of not-so-nice behavior or thoughts?
In this episode of Inner Archeology, Sarah and Emily talk about the repercussions of dealing with hardship, the role of empathy when dealing with people who experience something you have experienced, and who you should actually seek validation from.
Key Points In Episode:
- Today's conversation piggybacks on what Sarah and Emily talked about in the last episode: generational differences when it comes to parenting.
- Have you ever noticed how, when noticing someone parenting differently than you, certain subconscious thoughts are triggered?
- When that happens, you start evaluating your own childhood and sometimes this helps you realize that what you experienced wasn’t OK. Sometimes you feel ready to look into it, while sometimes you don’t. That’s OK, don’t be too hard on yourself!
- Emily shares that, when it comes to experiencing pain and trauma, people tend to fall into one of two camps: those who survived and who are maybe better because of it, and those who went through something painful and they don’t want you to experience the same thing.
- Sarah sees a third group: people who went through trauma and who stay in touch with the empathy toward the person they used to be when they experienced hardship.
- Let’s be honest: we all have had situations where something arises and our gut reaction isn’t the nicest. Don’t worry, it happens. Sarah suggests thinking about how you’d like to show up in the world and acting accordingly. #EmbraceEmpathy
- Has it ever happened to you to have felt resentment toward someone who has got it “easier” than you? Think about your children having access to pretty much anything but yet complain about things you, as a child, would have only dreamed of having…
- Sarah and Emily go over how Emily dealt with things when she was on the receiving end of Sarah lacking empathy, as well as how to deal with similar situations.
- When you’re seeking external validation for something that would really need your internal validation you become dependent on constant reassurance. Have trust in yourself, you’ve got this! Most times, your own – internal – validation is all you need. #QuoteOfTheDay
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